Should I forgive my bestfriend for kissing my ex boyfriend?
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My boyfriend of over a year broke up with me last week, then made out with my best friend Rachael a few days after. I had told Rachael about what he did and how he broke my heart immediately after the break up, yet she still kissed him a few days later. She never thought of how I might feel about it, and I was never in the back of her mind as she did it. It took her a few days to apologize, but her and I were such great friends before that I don't know how to even breathe without her.

I also talked to rachael about this. I told her I'm upset. I told her I'm mad. she wants to fix it but she doesn't know how. I really can't stand that she is still really good friends with my ex (the one that she made out with). Can i trust her to not kiss him again either?

Am I a bad friend for telling her that she should chose bewteen me and nick (my ex)? Because its hard to be friends with her while she is still friends with him and flirts often.

asked by Anonymous on Wednesday, September 1, 2010 - 11:47 | PROVIDE UPDATE

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marinemj:

if your friend wants to remain friends with your ex, that's one thing. but to flirt and then make out with him- i think it sucks. i know you said she is your best friend, but i really think you need to evaluate whether you need a friend with so little regard for your feelings.

2010-09-01 15:17
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oceankitten:

this sounds kind of juvenile, but i'm in my 30's and it still applies within my group of friends: NEVER date a friend's ex. this includes, booty calls, kissy face or a relationship. it's about respecting your friends and opting NOT to cause them further angst. your friend rachael broke the code, which kind of makes her not a great friend, especially since she doesn't seem to care much about how you feel. dump them both and move on...a true friend will not pursue your exes without at least discussing it with you first...

2010-09-02 10:59
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harleygirl:

I agree with mj and kitten. You obviously thought more of this friend than she did of you, or she wouldn't have sucked face with the guy who just ripped your heart in two. If she doesn't understand the boundaries of friendship, then she's not really worth keeping. How do you know she's not going to do this to you again, somewhere down the road? In the meantime, it's going to torment you, wondering if she and your ex are making out. Ditch both of them and move on.

2010-09-03 07:15