My bf and i have been happy and very close together 5 months and its almost been 3 wks since he brokedown after he went to a friends bday party said he cant be who he needs me to be and thinks he should let me go. He told me that he needs time to think everything through, loves me and is not saying that he wants to end our relationship, is sorry that this is going on because he doesn't know what's wrong with him, knows that its frustrating, needs to figure out who he needs to be because he is not satisfied where he is right now and doesn't help that he is pushing the best part of his life away. We didn't argue. We talked about then he called his mom to tell her he was planning a trip for us to visit them the day before this happened. He text to set up time to talk about a few times now but not followed through. I'm confused. We are still in a relationship on facebook, and has been since thursday with no contact. I have more dignity than to change it without communication, and was respecting space until he attempted communication, also that makes it official. When he said he needed time to think and didn't reassure we were fine i asked him when i could get my stuff, asked should i when while he was away and he said if i had to, but he would rather talk first. I went there the next day while he was out and left the key for shock value and to give him space he needed. He came home while i was in the parking lot while i was putting my stuff in my car, and said when he called in a couple of days to pick up the phone.. I understand that relationships are work, so I'm in limbo. Left with hope, it's hard, I don't want to be rejected again or let him think that this is okay, but how long to wait before try to arrange make or breakup?
sweetone:
It sounds like he is depressed. If so, who knows when he will feel okay again. He probably does not want to be a bummer to you always being down.