kinda tomboyish but I like guys

The most attract thing to a man is to see a woman who's comfortable with who she is. If you look nervous and out of place, men will assume you're neurotic or vulnerable or something. Either way, it doesn't bode well for you. Don't change who you are. I'm the mother of three daughters, and with all due respect to your mother, she should let you be yourself.

maybe most guys who are checking out women in bars want them to dress a certain way, but i don't see the point in trying to look like someone you're not. the right guy will like how you look when you are comfortable ad dressed like yourself.

just be yourself. please stop worrying what other people think.

And for the record, I met my husband in a country music bar, wearing jeans and a plaid shirt. We talked for a few hours, had one date the next day, he left for Chile later that day for five months, and when he came back, we'd already set a date to get married. We've been married ten years.

I don't do makeup, heels, skirts, etc. I don't dress like a slob, but I wear what I like. Basically I'm also a tomboy when it comes to style, and it hasn't caused me problems with dating or relationships.

You don't need to conform to some beauty standard to get a guy. Not every many likes the same type of woman. You'll find a guy that likes you for you. And it may not be at a bar either. You could find him at a grocery store or community art class. Just keep yourself open to meeting new people.

We agree with everyone who has posted here so far. Being yourself with confidence is the most attractive characteristic anyone has. However, humans, especially guys of the male persuasion, are also very visual (and sometimes a bit shallow) and judge people rather quickly on how they look. Maybe a nice pair of jeans, a tucked in t-shirt with a belt and a vest... maybe even a hat for flair will get you noticed more and still maintain your tomboy look. Think Amelia Earhart, the quintessential tomboy yet with style. Think about your intended target. Do you want somebody who wants his woman to be dressed up when she goes out, or do you want a guy who prefers that when you go out with him that you just wear street clothes? On the other hand are you looking for a guy who is smartly dressed or casual when going out on a date? In the end what really matters is personality and character.

I dated a guy who liked his dates to always dress in tight leather. That is not my style. I think I stopped dating him because he wanted me to be someone who I was not.