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Well I met this wonderful man 3years ago. His name is Jay When we first met i was pregnant with my second daughter and a single mother. We spoke every single day for a year and then I couldnt take the long distance any longer. So I went into a bad relationship where i ended up being abused and giving his baby up for adoption and disappearing from him. During the bad relationship I would always say why did I do this to myself Jay wouldnt of abused me. Well after I fled Jay connected with me again and after I had my third child(I put her up for adoption) I became abstinent. Saving myself for Jay we fell in love but with him in California and me in Ohio its difficult to imagine us as one. Its hitting the 3yr mark with him in 2months and I feel after I graduate from school I would want to move with him. He talks to my children almost every day and he has become my best friend. My kids adore him and the only objection I have is my family. They dont like when I am happy and they tend to make problems when Im around them. Jay makes me and my children happy but moving to Cali scares me because I have no family there. Should I risk being with Jay in california or staying in Ohio and just remaining friends with him. His always been there and is my rock. Over time I havent been able to look at another man because i feel Jay has my heart and it would feel like cheating to me. So should i pack up my children and move to Cali in Jan or stay back and raise my kids as a single parent as I have been? |
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whatdoyoumeancookie:do what's best for you and your kids. make yourself happy with you. then you can make whatever decision you want.don't chase a man across the country thinking you're going to be happy just b/c you're with him. why can't he move to where you are? if your family makes things so horrible for you, why do you care that you have no family in california? this is a big change so think about it carefully. if you think you need to ask strangers online what you should do, maybe you're not ready for such a move.
2010-07-12 06:19
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marinemj:
i say move- get away from your awful family and start a new life. BUT don't move in with jay. get your own place. that way, you aren't trapped if things go sour. also, i think people with kids shouldn't be moving in with people they are not married to- it's not fair to the kids to have the bonding with people before you're totally committed.