I think my bf is doing things to me in my sleep |
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I know this is odd but please bear with me. One night my bf and I were in a little tiff just before heading off to bed. Rather than deal with him one more moment, I got in bed, rolled over and pretended to sleep. After a while he came in, got in bed and slowly pulled the blanket off of me. He knows that I freeze at night without the covers. Then he sat over me for the longest time. I finally pretended to stir and grab the covers and cover myself back up. I thought he was just being a jerk. Then a week or two later, I woke up to find myself completely uncovered again- and freezing. He often stays up late and watches TV next to me. But I have woken up with his face right in mine or him tickling my feet or messing with me in some way that wakes me up. A few weeks ago, I woke up with a tiny bruise on my right breast ( he sleeps to my right). I thought maybe something had bit me, but now that I think about it, it could have been a pinch mark. I'm wondering if he's been doing weird things to me while I sleep but I don't know how to ask. I know he at least pulls the covers off of me- and that I have not been kicking them off as he says I do (which never made sense anyway because I am one of those people that is ALWAYS cold); but if i say something then he will know I was only pretending to sleep and avoiding him. How can I approach this situation? It would be all too easy for him to just call me crazy but in all honesty there is something vindictive and sinister about it and it creeps me out. I mean, he's my boyfriend but am I going to have to keep one eye open in order to sleep next to this guy or what? |
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bluewolf and bunny:Yes you will have to keep one eye open, but let that one eye be a (well hidden) video camera. In some places this could be illegal (secretly videotaping someone without their permission) and if that's the case simply use it for your own enlightenment. The camera will need to have night vision and it will need to record for at least 3 or 4 hours. If he is doing things to be mean like uncovering you or hurting you there is no point in asking him because he will simply deny it. When you wake up with his face in yours we assume that you have told him not to do that because it freaks you out. That sort of thing you can ask him not to do since you have witnessed it AFTER you have woken up but for the things that there is no proof (except the video evidence) we don't think he will own up to it. There is one obvious solution, a new boyfriend or better yet your own place. If this IS your place, and he is hurting you or doing something you don't like, kick him out - with or without the video evidence.
2010-03-08 12:28
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marinemj:just ask him. tell him that you weren't all the way asleep and you know he pulled the covers off and ask why. this is some seriously weird shit.
2010-03-09 17:05
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sweetone:
He could be doing things, especially since you got a bruise on your breast. Unfortunatley, some guys take advantage of girls while they sleep. I would not want to be with a sneaky guy like that.