BF doesn't want to pay rent because I can afford it on my own.
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It was my BF idea to move in to my house. Right after he moved , he lost his job. He said he wants to go back to school and will not have an income. I work 2 nursing jobs 50-60 hr/week, live with son and mom, no support from ex husband, whom divorce 4 years ago. I tolled him I can't support him. Besides, I am foreign trained physician and want to study for US license.
Later he got $2000/month unemployment and .......bought Mac pro. Now he makes $55/hr and no attempt to help. I brought it up, he only pays for his car insurance and his cell phone, no debts. My mom cleans house and cooks. " Are you sure you want me to pay rent? I thought you can afford it". I wanted him to pay same amount he've been paying for room than he lived with roommate and difference from my previous water and electricity bill. Does it sounds unfair?
I am feeling used...

asked by Natasha on Sunday, August 22, 2010 - 01:19

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Inah:

You feel used because you are.

Generally when two people move in together they should have an agreement on how to pay their joint bills like rent/mortgage, utilities and food. It sounds like you didn't do that and now you're being screwed.

My boyfriend and I live together and each pay half of the rent. Before when I lived with three other people, we each paid a quarter of the rent. What your boyfriend's doing is complete bull. If he isn't willing to pull his share (about a quarter of the rent and utilities in a 4-person house) he isn't worth dating.

2010-08-22 13:07
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harleygirl:

Nobody gets a free ride in my world. If he refuses to "man up" and start sharing in the expenses, kick his happy ass to the curb. You can do better.

2010-08-22 15:07
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marinemj:

of course he should be contributing to rent and utilities. if he isn't willing, or tries to make you feel guilty for asking, he needs to go.

2010-08-22 17:45
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whatdoyoumeancookie:

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2010-08-23 00:18