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my fiance got mad at me when i didnt want to jump right up go to his buddies house after him not wanting to go with me where i wanted to go. he left anyway, after our argument. he returned home later, got mad again when i demanded we talk about what happened earlier. he ended up yelling at me. telling me that if i didnt change soon we were going to make other arrangements. i told him that if he wanted me to leave, i would get my things and do so to make it easy 4 him. he proceeded yelling at me telling me to do what i had to do.! but never did directly answer if he wanted me to stay or leave. what do i make of all this and do?

asked by Anonymous on Sunday, July 25, 2010 - 11:01 | PROVIDE UPDATE

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Inah:

I wouldn't make too much of it. You guys just got into a stupid fight. It's normal. All long-term relationships include fights. If you guys can't get over an epic argument then you aren't meant to be together.

So, ff you want to stay with your boyfriend and generally like him then you should apologize for your role in the fight, regardless of who started it. But, if your relationship is headed for crapper anyway, then maybe you should make good on your threat to leave.

2010-07-25 15:11
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marinemj:

hmm. i see some red flags here. it sounds like your bf is fed up with some of your behavior- like he feels maybe you are too controlling or nagging or something. my suggestion would be that you guys get some premarital counseling before getting married, because marriage does NOT solve these problems, and it's better to get them hashed out beforehand.

2010-07-26 13:47